I am angry and I need a place for that so here it is--read it, don't read it, I don't care. I am angry to the point of utter and total rage and right now I have no other outlet for that.
Why am I angry? Well, I am angry because I have reached the conclusion that while on the surface society appears to care for our young women it does NOT! Society claims that young women must be protected (from men, society, and even from themselves). It has set up laws that effectively say that young women are not smart enough to contol themselves and their bodies, that they couldn't possibly have the same desires as young men, that a girl who acts in a sexual way must be being coerced in some way, especially if the young man in question is older than her.
As for young men, well we have gifted them with amazing qualities: good judgement, self control, the ability to manipulate, and great sexual skills--those silly girls will never be able to resist!
What bullshit this all is! Teenage girls are well aware of the power of sex. They want to be having sex as musch as any boy. And, they really are more mature than boys their own age, which means most of them will be attracted to young men who are older than they are.
I guess my biggest issue here is that we have let girls off the hook. They can flirt, touch, have sex. If they change their mind, even in the middle of it, well no means no. And I am not saying it doesn't mean that. It most certainly does. But shouldn't we teach girls that they have some responsibility also? Shouldn't we say, "Sometimes self control can be an issue. Let's talk about how to avoid situations where it might be hard to stop, so you don't end up in a bad spot." Shouldn't we say this to ALL young people? Or are girls incapable of this responsibility? I don't think they are. I think they are smart enough to choose to have sex if they want and to choose not to if they don't. They are smart enough to choose wisely the people they want to have sex with. And if they are not, are young men?
Young men 20 and under are still pretty immature. They don't always make wise choices Most are pretty happy that a girl will even look at them. If they have sex with a girl then she has a lot of power over them. One word to the wrong person, even if she loves him, and he is looking at a pretty long jail sentence.
Any way there it is. I am angry about thing that have to do with this. I am a mom, I have both boys and girls. I think that as a society we do not love our kids nearly as much as we should. Goodnite.
